In mediation, the parties, with the help of a trained mediator, negotiate directly with each other to reach an agreement on all aspects of their divorce. Couples negotiate and resolve issues such as the division of property, parenting arrangements, child support and spousal support.

During a traditional divorce, each spouse hires their own attorney. The lawyers spend substantial time negotiating with each other and then additional time communicating the outcome of the negotiations to their respective clients.

This approach only escalates conflict and increases attorney fees. If the attorneys are not successful in reaching an agreement, the issues surrounding the divorce will be decided by a judge. Going to court delays divorce, sometimes for several years, compromises privacy and depletes marital assets that could be divided between the parties or used to provide for spouses or children.

The solution to these problems is mediation. In mediation, the parties, with the help of a trained mediator, negotiate directly with each other to reach an agreement on all aspects of their separation. Couples negotiate and resolve issues such as the division of property, parenting arrangements, child support and spousal support.

Marlo Van Oorschot is a distinguished family law mediator who has spent years learning and practicing her craft. Her law firm is devoted solely to the needs of family issues.

Making the most of mediation before you begin the process

Taking steps to prepare prior to mediation will increase the success of conflict resolution through mediation. If both parties know what will occur during the mediation, the process will be a lot easier for everyone.

Before you go to mediation

The idea of Pre-mediation helps you prepare to successfully contribute to the resolution of your conflict in many ways by offering support, information and insight. I can assist you with tools to help you actively participate in the peaceful resolution of your dispute.

While mediation is not always the medium of choice, in some instances it is the most practical resolution process available.